HOW TO DEFEAT OUR GREATEST ENEMY, Self-Doubt?


Where does self-doubt come from? Some of you might believe that self-doubt arises from a lack of clear judgment and confidence. If you happen to have this opinion, then You, my friend, are also a victim of Self-doubt. In most cases, Self-doubt stems from an overly competitive environment in our childhood making us feel not worthy or ‘good enough’ to achieve something. Whatever the cause may be, the symptoms are usually similar; anxiety, hesitation to start something new, low self-esteem, and in worst cases depression. How you have been wired as a child is pretty difficult to shake but now that you are an adult, you can apply reason and logic to defeat that doubt. Your self-doubt is making you lose out on many opportunities and possible achievements in life. Stop telling yourself that you aren’t good enough and start working to become the person you wanted to grow up to be!

I have been a patient of Self-doubt for most of my teen years and also somewhat recently. And therefore, I have written this blog for all of you who are suffering from the same, with a determination to kill my self-doubts slowly and steadily------

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DRESS THE PART

Never underestimate the value of being well dressed and well groomed. Being well dressed doesn’t imply to be always extravagant in our outfit choices, I mean you shouldn’t wear a ball gown to a simple cafĂ©-outing with your buddies. Dress according to the occasion and to the best of your abilities. Always remember, Oscar Wilde said, “You can never be overdressed or overeducated.”

So, wear your favorite clothes for big days and also for small days because you never know when the opportunity strikes!

 

KNOW YOUR PART

Be prepared for everything! Be it a job interview, your first date, meeting with a childhood friend or simply going for a walk. Oscar Wilde also said you can never be overeducated. Do your homework, know your part, and be prepared. Being ready for whatever is thrown at you in a meeting or even a simple board game will make you more confident. If you don’t like to read you can always consult the world’s second most searched Search engine, Mr. YouTube! There is plenty to know and learn. Nobody enters the war without knowing how to swing the sword, then why should you?

 

HEALTHY BODY IMAGE

Body image is how you see yourself in the mirror or the perception of your attractiveness to yourself. It has nothing to do with the people around you. It is very imperative to be comfortable with what you see in the mirror. Self-doubt and low confidence are products of many multiplicative factors, body image is one of them. If you are not happy with your body, you are most likely to be doubtful of your worth.

I am not telling you to be a model figure, you should be happy with how you look. And if you aren’t happy then dive right into it, lose or gain those muscles that stop you from loving yourself. Exercising and eating clean always helps whether you are satisfied with your body image or not!

 

BE MORE DECISIVE

I am not sure about you, but making decisions even as small as deciding what to eat, is very taxing for me. One of the most important things to realize here is that not all tough decisions are the right decisions. What I believe is, the first instinct that comes to our mind while deciding to do something is usually the correct decision but the overthinking spoils it.

For example, you walk inside a store and want to purchase a dress you liked instantly but then you are distracted by the other options and boom 1000 years later you are still unable to decide. Now some of you would argue that it is important to weigh in other factors before making a decision. I totally agree to this point but you must understand what factors are important to be considered and which ones are merely distractions!  

Take control of yourself and take your own decisions. You are accountable and responsible for them. That makes you the authoritative symbol of your life and certainly helps in feeling more confident!  

 

STAY AWAY FROM THE CASUAL CRITICISM

Constructive criticism is very good for us however, we should be able to differentiate between what’s constructive and what is casual. Here is how we tell them apart;

FRIEND 1: “Hey, you will never be able to lose that weight even though how much you try”

FRIEND 2: “Hey, I know its hard, but you must try to lose weight in order to be healthier”

Obviously, a friend 2 is an example of constructive criticism and you must take them seriously and friend 1 is just an asshole pushing you further in your self-doubt wormhole! In longer-term, it is better if you start surrounding yourself with positive people who tell you the right thing rather than just some casual remarks. Run as far as can from such casual remarks!

Another example, (because it’s fun)

FRIEND 1: “I think your writing sucks”

FRIEND 2: “I read what you have written and I certainly believe that you can do better!”

Which one do you think is constructive?

Constructive-Criticism

LOOK DEEPER

Try to introspect and find the root cause of your self-doubt. It can be anything and it is better to know yourself than learning it from other people. Every fear you are trying to hide is making you more and more susceptible to self-doubt! You don’t have to announce your fears to the world on social media platforms with hashtag brave, hashtag know yourself, and hashtag Love Yourself. Just stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself how you feel about certain situations in life that put you down or scare you! The first step towards moving forward is accepting and accepting your flaws is the most beautiful thing that you can do!  

Next time don’t say “I will fail”.

Just say, “I might fail in what I am trying to pursue but it won’t stop me from trying and giving my one hundred percent dedication.”

Stop caring about people who see you through somebody else’s lens. Stop trying to impress people and care less about what they think and goes without saying Don’t judge other people for their life decisions (unless their decisions put them in jail).

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